The Leader in the Mirror
“We face our greatest leadership challenge every day
when we look in the mirror.”
At Leadercast last Friday, Andy Stanley captured our attention by pointing out that exceptional self-leadership is the key to:
Being a leader worth following
Having sustained influence
Achieving sustained performance
He challenged us to live 3 essential decisions along our journey to exceptional self-leadership.
1. I will not lie to myself even when the truth makes me feel bad about myself.
Instead, fire the liar in you. Be honest with yourself by asking why you are doing things that don’t help you achieve your goals. If you want to be healthier, ask yourself why you are eating cookies and why you are avoiding exercise.
2. I will prioritize what I value most over what I want now.
To define what you want most, write down the things you would like said about you at your funeral. To achieve these results we have to be intentional about how we choose to spend our time year after year. However, many of the things you want today or this month do not contribute to achieving your valued long-term results. Prioritizing what you value most means spending your time and resources on the things that create long-term impact rather than fleeting satisfaction.
3. I will not attempt to lead myself by myself.
Spend time with people that enhance the quality of your life. Find friends and/or accountability partners who share your values. Be vulnerable with them about your goals and your struggles. Ask them to help you be honest with yourself and focus on what you value most.
Which essential decision will you make and implement first: not lie to yourself, prioritize what you value most over what you want now, or ask someone who shares your values to be your accountability partner?
By what day in the next week will you start living this decision?
Making a decision about what matters to you and living accordingly are necessary steps to Making Things Happen, one of the 10 Maximizers of Personal Leadership Effectiveness™.