Why Self-Leadership Is Tough for Young Professionals (and What Employers Can Do About It)

Cathie Leimbach • May 20, 2025

Starting a first job is exciting—but it can also be overwhelming. For many young professionals, self-leadership doesn’t come easily right away, and that’s not a reflection of intelligence or motivation. Instead, it’s the result of a mix of biological, educational, and social factors that employers need to understand.


1. The Brain Is Still Under Construction

Let’s start with biology. The prefrontal cortex, which handles planning, prioritizing, and self-regulation, continues to develop into a person’s mid-twenties. That means young professionals are often still building the mental wiring needed for independent decision-making.


2. School Prepared Them for Structure, Not Ambiguity

Most educational systems are built around standardized testing and structured learning environments. Students are trained to follow clear rubrics and respond to well-defined expectations. But the modern workplace often requires people to operate in gray areas—to take initiative and figure things out without much guidance. That’s a big adjustment for someone fresh out of school.


3. Parenting Styles Play a Role

Many young adults grew up under the watchful eyes of “helicopter” or “snowplow” parents—well-meaning guardians who hovered or cleared obstacles from their paths. While these styles may reduce stress in the short term, they can unintentionally limit the development of autonomous decision-making and risk-taking. The result? Lower self-efficacy and a tendency to hesitate in unfamiliar or challenging situations at work.


4. Technology Has Changed Problem-Solving

We live in an era of instant answers. When a problem comes up, it’s second nature to Google it or ask ChatGPT. While this can be efficient, it also means that many young professionals haven’t had as much practice with internal problem-solving strategies—like critical thinking, trial and error, or strategic patience.


What Employers Can Do

The key takeaway: this is about inexperience, not a lack of potential. With the right approach, employers can help young professionals grow into strong, self-led contributors. Here’s how:

Set crystal-clear expectations from day one

Provide thorough onboarding and training

Start with close supervision, then gradually reduce it as they gain confidence

Offer regular, structured feedback

Encourage self-reflection and ownership

Pair them with mentors who model professional self-leadership


A Helpful Framework: Situational Leadership II®

One tool that’s especially helpful here is Ken Blanchard’s Situational Leadership II® model. It outlines four stages of leadership support—from directing, to coaching, to supporting, to delegating. It’s a great roadmap for helping a new employee grow from needing guidance to performing independently.


The Payoff

With intentional support, most young professionals develop workplace autonomy within 12 to 18 months. They just need time, guidance, and the chance to stretch their wings.


Final Thought:
If you're leading early-career professionals, your role isn't just to manage—they're looking to you to help them grow. Be patient. Be clear. And remember, self-leadership is a skill that develops over time—with the right leader, it can flourish.

Wrapping Up Your Year – Celebrate Your Wins

By Cathie Leimbach • December 16, 2025
As you’re wrapping presents this season, it’s also a great time to wrap up your year with intention. The end of the year offers a natural pause—a chance to reflect, appreciate, and celebrate the people who made a difference along the way. At work, we often move from one deadline to the next without stopping to say thank you. Take a moment to recognize your teammates. Maybe it’s the coworker who always had your back, or the leader who helped you stretch and grow. A sincere “thank you” or a short handwritten note can go a long way. It doesn’t need to be elaborate—just genuine. The same holds true in your personal life. When was the last time you told a friend or family member how much they mean to you? Between holiday plans and to-do lists, it’s easy to forget that our presence often matters more than any present. Every year brings both highs and lows. As this one comes to a close, choose to focus on what went right. Celebrate the small wins and acknowledge the people who supported you through the challenging moments. So, while you’re taping up gift boxes, take a little time to wrap up your year with gratitude. Send the text. Write the card. Let people know they’re valued. After all, the most meaningful gift you can give is helping someone feel truly appreciated. Want more simple, meaningful ways to express appreciation—without overspending?  👉 View Sharing Joy at Work Without Breaking the Bank for practical ideas you can use right away.

Connectional Intelligence: The Power Skill Behind Big Results

By Cathie Leimbach • December 9, 2025
In Erica Dhawan’s book, Get Big Things Done, she defines Connectional Intelligence as the ability to combine knowledge, networks, and relationships to drive meaningful results. In today’s busy workplace, it’s not just what you know—it’s how well you connect that turns good ideas into big outcomes. Strong Connectional Intelligence within a team strengthens workplace morale and productivity by impacting four key attributes of high-performance cultures: Value Visibly – People perform better when they know their contributions matter. Leaders who highlight strengths, acknowledge effort, and celebrate progress create a culture where great work becomes contagious. Communicate Carefully – In an age of nonstop messages, clarity is a competitive advantage. Thoughtful communication reduces confusion, prevents conflict, and ensures that everyone moves forward with shared understanding. Collaborate Confidently – Connectional Intelligence flourishes when people feel empowered to contribute. Confident collaboration means inviting diverse perspectives, leveraging individual superpowers, and creating space for smart problem-solving. Trust Totally – Trust is the anchor of all high-performing teams. When leaders show reliability, transparency, and empathy, people take risks, share ideas, and stay aligned toward common goals. Connectional Intelligence helps teams innovate faster, break down silos, and accomplish what truly matters. Want to learn more? Visit Erica Dhawan’s website to explore her full body of work and deepen your understanding of Connectional Intelligence.