The Courage to Overcome Divisiveness

Cathie Leimbach • May 24, 2022

We are living in very divisive times. Do we have the courage to overcome the division that stresses our communities and our lives?

Currently, divisiveness in the United States is the greatest it has been since the Civil War, says Chuck Mingo, the founder of Living Undivided. We tend to be afraid of the unknown and afraid to ask questions about things we aren’t familiar with. This fear often results in us lashing out against the realities around us that we done understand. Mingo says this fear is unconstructive, unrelenting, and unresponsive. He has a passion to help people overcome this fear by having the courage to reach out and collaborate with those who are different than us.

Mingo and others suggest that the opposite of fear is courage. Perhaps the best way to overcome fear is to have the courage to get to know people who are different than us. We need to move through our fear courageously, not skirt around the things that we are afraid of.

Courageous love may be the most effective way to overcome the fear of differences.  We can love people who aren’t like us at work, in our families, and in the community if we believe that they are worthy human beings and take time to get to know them. This allows us to understand each other, which usually leads to us finding common ground. Then we can build bridges that reduce divisiveness so everyone can have a less stressful and more meaningful life.

When we live with fear and indifference, we let poor conditions and situations thrive. However, when we have the courage to take the time to listen to each other’s stories and perspectives, we usually discover that we can live side by side without being fearful.

Within your leadership context, where could you be exhibiting courageous love? Where can you build bridges to understanding that add value to your life and the lives of those around you?  

Trust-Building Conversations

By Cathie Leimbach • June 30, 2026
Most workplace tension doesn't come from major conflicts. It comes from too few conversations. A disappointment that was never discussed. A broken agreement that was never repaired. Appreciation that was never expressed. Over time, these "withholds" create friction that slows collaboration, weakens trust, and makes even simple conversations feel difficult. The strongest teams don't avoid tension—they address it early. Research highlighted in a recent McKinsey article found that unresolved tensions can significantly reduce team effectiveness, while high-trust teams consistently outperform their peers. The difference isn't the absence of problems. It's the willingness to talk about them. One of the most practical leadership habits is creating regular opportunities for transparent interaction. That includes appreciation. People should hear what they're doing well far more often than they hear about their shortfalls. Specific, genuine recognition builds trust over time. Those trust deposits matter because once positive relationships are built, difficult conversation are more likely to accept the message . When correction is needed, reinforce that you value the person, even though they aren’t perfect. The goal is growth, not judgment. But leaders should be careful not to make appreciation transactional. If positive feedback has been absent for months, suddenly offering praise immediately before a critique usually feels insincere. Trust is built through a steady pattern of recognition, encouragement, and honest conversation—not a last-minute compliment. Transparent leaders also address issues early. Small frustrations become large resentments when left unresolved. Teams that clear the air quickly spend less energy managing tension and more energy producing results. The result? Less friction. More trust. Stronger relationships. Better performance. Because healthy conversations don't just solve problems—they strengthen the team. Free Leader Guide: 5 Practices for Trust-Building Conversations The best leaders don't wait for tension to become conflict. They build trust before it's needed. Download our 5 Practices for Trust-Building Conversations guide to learn practical ways to strengthen relationships, reduce friction, and create a culture where honest conversations lead to better performance. Download the guide and start building trust one conversation at a time.

Speaking Up Is Not Defiance. It's Duty.

By Cathie Leimbach • June 23, 2026
Most leaders say they want employees to speak up. They want people who spot risks, question assumptions, and help the organization make better decisions. Yet many employees hesitate to do exactly that. Why? Because leaders often respond to speaking up as if the speaker is complaining, criticizing or resisting. When people fear being viewed as difficult, they stop sharing what they see. The organization loses valuable information, ideas, and perspectives. A recent McKinsey article found that teams with high psychological safety are two to three times more likely to generate breakthrough ideas. When people feel safe speaking up, better thinking follows. The best leaders understand a simple truth: Speaking up is not defiance. It's duty. When employees question assumptions, raise concerns, or offer a different perspective, they are helping the team avoid blind spots and make stronger decisions. That's why effective leaders don't merely tolerate speaking up—they invite it. They ask: What are we not seeing? What assumptions are we making? Who might see this differently? What information are we missing? Just as importantly, they respond with curiosity instead of defensiveness. They thank people for expressing their perspective. They explain how input influenced decisions. They make speaking up safe. Because organizations don't improve when everyone agrees. They improve when people feel responsible for helping the team see what others may have missed. In healthy organizations, speaking up isn't rebellion. It's responsibility. It's duty. Leadership Reflection Think about your last leadership team meeting. Did people simply agree? Or did someone help the team see something it otherwise would have missed? Download 5 Questions That Surface Better Thinking and make speaking up a productive part of how your team thinks, decides, and performs.