When Managers Help by Asking Questions
Cathie Leimbach • July 29, 2020
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How do you structure meetings with your direct reports? Do you give them their assignments for this week and then adjourn the meeting? Or, do you encourage two-way conversations by asking open-ended questions to learn about the successes, joys, and challenges in their personal life and their work responsibilities?
A manager's job is to serve the needs of their staff, to support them to be personally successful and contribute to the organization's success. Asking your employees open-ended questions is the best way to understand their needs.
Asking 'What would you like to talk about today?' or 'How can I help you be successful this week?' opens the door for your team members to share their bottlenecks. Open-ended questions, such as those that start with the '5 Ws' or 'How' allow your direct report to set the agenda for the discussion. When you know what is limiting their performance, you can help close their gaps in knowledge, skills, or tools so they can be more productive.
What open-ended questions could you ask your team members in your next one-on-one meetings?
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